The past couple years have been a roller coaster for me. I’ve had many ups and downs along the way. From my lawsuit with an AMC, trying to do everything I can to help appraisers, organizing a conference, starting a new podcast, getting sober and fighting alcoholism every day, getting focused on myself and my business for the first time in years as well as taking on some new roles. It’s been a crazy couple of years. There were times I had depression settle in, times I just wanted to give up and times that I just felt overwhelmed by life in general.
Early on I was nothing more than a complainer and I just did everything I could to be negative about my profession as a real estate appraiser. I began to surround myself with others that had the same views and that fueled my fire to take it further. I did and it cost me a lot, a lot of time, a lot of relationships, a lot of work and a lot of who I was. It pushed me into a bad space of drinking more and more. I admit, there were times It should have cost me my life and almost did.
I entered a treatment program in July 2019 and today I am 10 months sober. One of my biggest take always from rehab and after is that I needed to focus more on me, the things I could control and less on all the outside forces I could not control. Focus on my life, not everyone else’s. Focus on my goals, my worth and my success, something I haven’t done in forever. I needed to become a Doer and not a complainer. I needed to start doing things for me and for my career. I needed to stop listening to the naysayers, stop pointing fingers for My failures, or the failures of my profession. I just needed to regroup and do what I thought was right and go with it. If I fail then that’s on me and no one else. If I succeed then I succeeded on my own, but I’d have to put in the hard work in order to succeed.
There are many inspirational quotes out there from many people however the one I always seem to go back to is the quote from Rocky Balboa. I know it seems odd but it works for me due to my past and my present,
“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you.
I’ve been hit hard many times and I’m sure many of you have as well. However, this quote resonates with me for many reasons. First it really speaks to me as far as my life and where I was to where I am now. Secondly it certainly pertains to the real estate appraiser profession. Appraisers are always out there complaining about fees, about AMCs and about where the profession is. When it comes to fees, we see it often when an AMC sends out a low fee, the responses are always crazy negative and many say “charge what you are worth”, yet over and over we then see the pointing of the finger blaming the AMC or blaming other appraisers for taking such a low fee in the area. Now don’t get me wrong here, AMCS and low fees are major issues within the profession and shouldn’t be ignored. Their business structure is very broken and some even consider it a Ponzi scheme. The way lenders & AMCS work today have created many issues within the appraisal profession, issues that we only see a hand full of people or organizations trying to fix. However, what we rarely see is how someone overcame this, or what they did to make things better for themselves. We very rarely see anyone out there explaining how they took control of the situation and made it better. We rarely see anyone try to make a difference, only waiting for others to make it for them, but then when someone does try to make a difference and tries to help the situation we see the comments of negativity towards that person for trying to help because it wasn’t done in a way that that others wanted. I’m sure you already know this… You have a choice.. You can continue to be the issue and point fingers or you can decide to take the reigns, take control and start doing things. Whether that be find better clients, make phone calls, change your business model, start a new career or adapt.
The divide is great. Its real, but for me it’s further acknowledgment that I am going in the right direction for myself and my business. I’m no longer pointing fingers, I’m no longer complaining, rather I am Doing things and whether you agree with them or not, I know one thing…. I am a DOER, I’ll continue to take the hits from wherever or whoever they come from and keep on going. Nothing is going to hit me harder than alcoholism, and being at the lowest point anyone can be, however I will continue to do things to better myself and business, I will try and continue to help appraisers, maybe not in a way you may like but at the very least I will DO it.
DO something. Do something that will make a difference regardless of what anyone else thinks. If you know what you’re worth then go out and prove it. Actions speak louder than words. Comments can only get you so far. Doers are optimistic, they are always looking to make things better for themselves or others around them regardless if it doesn’t work for everyone, they are always looking to expand, create and help, and they are always seeking solutions.
Are you a DOER or just someone that sits in the passenger seat waiting for someone to lead you to the final destination.